Being Supportive
Why Your Support Matters
When someone you care about is struggling with their mental health, it can be hard to know how to help. However, your support can make all the difference. Whether it's anxiety, depression, emotional exhaustion, or another challenge, just knowing they have someone who understands and cares can help them feel less isolated. The way you respond can either build them up or make things harder, which is why it’s important to approach them with patience, empathy, and understanding.
This guide will give you practical tips on how to be the best support you can be, without overwhelming yourself or unintentionally making things more difficult. Remember, your presence and compassion can be the lifeline they need during tough times.
Start with Empathy, Not Solutions
Sometimes the best thing you can do is simply be there. You don’t have to fix their problems—just showing up with a kind heart can mean the world.
Say things like:
“I’m here for you.”
“You don’t have to go through this alone.”
“It’s okay not to be okay.”
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Avoid jumping to advice unless they ask for it.
Listen Without Judgement
Let them express themselves without fear of being criticized, dismissed, or “talked out” of their feelings - don’t interrupt.
Avoid phrases like:
“Others have it worse.”
“Just think positive.”
“You’re being dramatic.”
Instead, hold space for them to speak openly and safely.
Offer Support, Not Pressure
Let them set the pace. If they’re not ready to talk, don’t push. Let them know the door is open when they are.
You can ask:
“Would you like to talk about it?”
“Do you want me to just listen, or help you find solutions?”
Learn About What They're Facing
Educate yourself on conditions like depression, anxiety, emotional exhaustion, or neurodivergence. Understanding what they’re going through helps you support them more effectively and compassionately.
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Tip: Check our FSA pages on specific mental health topics.
Be Patient - Healing Takes Time
Mental health struggles don’t vanish overnight. There may be ups and downs, relapses, or silence.
On hard days, remind them:
“I know today is tough, but I’m still here for you.”
“You don’t have to pretend around me.”
Encourage, Don't Force, Professional Help
If they’re open to it, gently suggest therapy or support groups—but avoid making them feel pressured or broken.
Say:
“Talking to a therapist helped me—maybe it could help you too.”
“Would it help if I went with you to your first session?”
"Therapy isn’t something to fear—it’s a form of support that helps you heal and grow."
Support Them in Little Ways
Small, consistent gestures can be powerful:
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Bring them their favorite snack or drink
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Invite them on a gentle walk
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Offer to do a chore or task they’re struggling with
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Send a kind message reminding them you care
Take Care of Yourself Too
Supporting someone else can be emotionally heavy. Set boundaries, recharge, and make sure you have support as well. You can’t pour from an empty cup.
It’s okay to say:
“I care deeply about you—and I also need to rest right now.”
“Can we talk later when I’ve recharged a bit?”
